Some how or in some way WE the People individually have experienced the Bully in our lifetimes And collectively WE are experiencing the Bully in Cheeto I encountered one during my paper route days with a older fat boy demanding papers from me on my route until one day I had had enough pushed him and said fuck off I learned that the fear of the bully was all in my head
Cheeto is nothing but a narcissistic Bully who as WE have seen takes the route of TACO whenever someone pushes against him It happened with tariffs with other countries, that is, our allies have his number It happened with Minnesota It happened with the Epstein files It’s happened with the nationwide protests
Cheeto will always back down as do all Bullies Cheeto will always push the envelope and make out like his demands are meaningful but in the end he will always capitulate WE the People have to understand the psyche of a Bully and see that he seems threatening but in the end Cheeto will always back down and leave WE the People alone WE just have to carry this mindset going forward Protests work!!!
May every one of them stand trial for their crimes! Most of us know enough about psychology to realize that those who act toughest and yell most loudly are cowards. (I’m a psychologist and am aware that all of my clients, friends and family members know this, and understand what they are seeing.) I’d love to see this regime exposed for what it is, and remain aghast that over 30% of the nation still believes the tough guy bullshit.
This is getting through, somewhat to my surprise. The widespread revulsion to the Pretti murder tells me that the Right Wing news filter is fraying , stuff is getting through.
A tasty newslet of late: 'hatred from the public' was cited as one of the top reasons that morale is dropping in ICE . Keep it up.
The men that we expected to be raised from boys born into homes of the women in the 60s leading the women’s movement were going to grow up into men who were kinder, gentler, helped more in child raising and domestic chores. These men would be both intellectually curious and able to think beyond and outside of “boys don’t cry” mentality driven into previous generations of boys.
Instead we have adult boys who often appear driftless. I’m definitely not a sociologist, but I still wonder how so much went wrong with our younger men where demonstrating lower intellectual curiosity appears their superpower.
I'm 68, male, and during those almost seven decades I've met thousands of men. Maculinity isn't the right norm to determine manlyhood. I saw ISIS letting a five y.o. behead a Christian male captive. After his rite of passage the boy held the head up for the camera, smiling, so proud of his achievement. I also saw a video of twelve/thirteen y.o. feminine boys dancing in front of adult Taliban "warriors" seducing them. A public secret.
Maculinity is mostly a cultural signifier which is evolutionary determined, as our modern societies teaches us. The vanity/femininety of Vance and Hegseth are proof of this.
Good piece the men are all eunuchs with lots of make-up on for the cameras and the women are all botox barbies so they don't hurt predator trump's eyes... even ice takes multiple "men" to throw someone to the ground because they are holding a phone...
Thanks for these observations on how the right has turned traditional masculinity into a comic book version of it. A traditional man is a hero, not a cardboard character. My dad hauled artillery onto the beaches of the South Pacific in order to defeat the Imperial Japanese allies of Nazi Germany. He went on to serve in the California National Guard in order to PROTECT (not terrorize) the citizens of that state from harm. He went to work every day and came home to eat supper with us every night, never once stopping in a bar to pound brewskis and brag about some imaginary victory over a poor schmo he kicked to the curb because he had dark skin or a different sexual orientation. He cussed, but only when cussing was called for, and never at us. When I was maltreated by a boy he stood in the door and told that boy if he ever showed his face near our house again he'd regret it. That was the only instance I ever saw him threaten force. He even went to church to stand with us as the man of the family, although his beliefs were personal, rather than textual. I loved my dad. To this day, his hands are an icon to me, and the doorway for me to appreciate the men in my life now.
I think masculinity, like femininity is about courage, judgment, grace and inner strength. The outward appearances of masculinity are just that, appearances. Give me a man who speaks truthfully, who stands for something, who cares for others as he would care for me. That's a real man.
Framing Cheeto As A Bully
Some how or in some way WE the People individually have experienced the Bully in our lifetimes And collectively WE are experiencing the Bully in Cheeto I encountered one during my paper route days with a older fat boy demanding papers from me on my route until one day I had had enough pushed him and said fuck off I learned that the fear of the bully was all in my head
Cheeto is nothing but a narcissistic Bully who as WE have seen takes the route of TACO whenever someone pushes against him It happened with tariffs with other countries, that is, our allies have his number It happened with Minnesota It happened with the Epstein files It’s happened with the nationwide protests
Cheeto will always back down as do all Bullies Cheeto will always push the envelope and make out like his demands are meaningful but in the end he will always capitulate WE the People have to understand the psyche of a Bully and see that he seems threatening but in the end Cheeto will always back down and leave WE the People alone WE just have to carry this mindset going forward Protests work!!!
May every one of them stand trial for their crimes! Most of us know enough about psychology to realize that those who act toughest and yell most loudly are cowards. (I’m a psychologist and am aware that all of my clients, friends and family members know this, and understand what they are seeing.) I’d love to see this regime exposed for what it is, and remain aghast that over 30% of the nation still believes the tough guy bullshit.
This is getting through, somewhat to my surprise. The widespread revulsion to the Pretti murder tells me that the Right Wing news filter is fraying , stuff is getting through.
A tasty newslet of late: 'hatred from the public' was cited as one of the top reasons that morale is dropping in ICE . Keep it up.
Yeah, I feel for those jerks. Not!
Those 'He-Men' are precious little snowflakes who are all butt-hurt because we don't worship their chickenshit cosplay. Poor babies.
The men that we expected to be raised from boys born into homes of the women in the 60s leading the women’s movement were going to grow up into men who were kinder, gentler, helped more in child raising and domestic chores. These men would be both intellectually curious and able to think beyond and outside of “boys don’t cry” mentality driven into previous generations of boys.
Instead we have adult boys who often appear driftless. I’m definitely not a sociologist, but I still wonder how so much went wrong with our younger men where demonstrating lower intellectual curiosity appears their superpower.
Look up books by Peter Gray, a BC Prof. He writes about the values learned in 'free play'.
Thank you for writing it. Great great article.
I'm 68, male, and during those almost seven decades I've met thousands of men. Maculinity isn't the right norm to determine manlyhood. I saw ISIS letting a five y.o. behead a Christian male captive. After his rite of passage the boy held the head up for the camera, smiling, so proud of his achievement. I also saw a video of twelve/thirteen y.o. feminine boys dancing in front of adult Taliban "warriors" seducing them. A public secret.
Maculinity is mostly a cultural signifier which is evolutionary determined, as our modern societies teaches us. The vanity/femininety of Vance and Hegseth are proof of this.
Spot on analysis! I'm spread this far and wide.
This is a very powerful essay.
Good piece the men are all eunuchs with lots of make-up on for the cameras and the women are all botox barbies so they don't hurt predator trump's eyes... even ice takes multiple "men" to throw someone to the ground because they are holding a phone...
Thanks for these observations on how the right has turned traditional masculinity into a comic book version of it. A traditional man is a hero, not a cardboard character. My dad hauled artillery onto the beaches of the South Pacific in order to defeat the Imperial Japanese allies of Nazi Germany. He went on to serve in the California National Guard in order to PROTECT (not terrorize) the citizens of that state from harm. He went to work every day and came home to eat supper with us every night, never once stopping in a bar to pound brewskis and brag about some imaginary victory over a poor schmo he kicked to the curb because he had dark skin or a different sexual orientation. He cussed, but only when cussing was called for, and never at us. When I was maltreated by a boy he stood in the door and told that boy if he ever showed his face near our house again he'd regret it. That was the only instance I ever saw him threaten force. He even went to church to stand with us as the man of the family, although his beliefs were personal, rather than textual. I loved my dad. To this day, his hands are an icon to me, and the doorway for me to appreciate the men in my life now.
"The shooting in Minneapolis...". I see a 'typo'. Should read "The murders in Minneapolis..."
You're right. It was murder and we all saw it. Murder.
I think masculinity, like femininity is about courage, judgment, grace and inner strength. The outward appearances of masculinity are just that, appearances. Give me a man who speaks truthfully, who stands for something, who cares for others as he would care for me. That's a real man.
Perfectly analyzed, thank you!
They "are the hollow men, the stuffed men; Headpiece filled with straw, alas!" (for our country).
Don't neglect the other part of the lilne, "leaning together." These cowardly morons can't stand alone.
Good call, Gayle.